The ofFENCE that DIVIDES

Proverbs 18:19 AMP, A brother offended is harder to win over than a fortified city, and contentions [separating families] are like the bars of a castle.

The Bible says to “train up a child in the way they should go.” Training takes time, it takes faith, it takes patience, it takes consistency. Many times when children are toddlers you realize they’re still learning and you have MORE grace and patience. As they get older you may think to yourself, “I taught them to know better…” and you EXPECT more out of them, but they still make wrong choices. It’s easy to take OFFENCE at your children and even hold a grudge against them for years. Offence is simply a feeling of resentment, feelings of insult or a righteous anger that rises up in you from their wrong words or actions. Many parents even disown their kids once they become adults because they have caused much grief. God created us to have freedom of choice, which gives us many opportunities to blow it. BUT GOD… He loves us SO MUCH and gives us SO MUCH GRACE! He loves us with an unconditional love! Don’t STAY offended with your children at ANY age (especially in their adult years). Repent for being offended and the Lord can restore your relationship with your children. I’m not saying it’s easy, it may take a DAILY act of saying out loud, “I forgive them” until your heart lines up with your words. God is a SUPERNATURAL GOD, and a RESTORER of broken, hurt and even offended hearts when you turn it over to Him. It’s a choice! Make the choice to be a part of the answer and not a part of the problem! Your family is SO WORTH IT! Be a leader of love and grace.