Unity in the Home
Psalm 133:1, 3b, (NASB). v. 1 “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity!… v. 3b…for THERE the Lord commanded the blessing - life forever.”
The enemies GREATEST tactic in the home is to bring division! If he can get mom and dad at odds with each other in the plan for their family, raising the kids and home life, he has won! You will notice, even the kids will go from parent to parent to get the answer THEY want. If mom says no, they will go to dad who usually says yes, or maybe mom says yes, and dad usually says no. Either way, kids are smart and they will work the system. So, as parents we have to be smart and not fall into the trap! Robert and I saw what our sons were doing and we made a decision not to budge until we talked and decided “together” the plan. In order to keep the peace, at times we would defer to one another, even if we weren’t in full agreement. It’s important to bend and flex with your spouse.
Most husbands and wives are opposites in many areas of their personalities and strengths. That’s why you have to communicate when it comes to deciding if “Johnny’s” going to a friends house to spend the night, or begging to go to the movies. Do your research, and get ALL the details. Know WHO they’re going with, and WHO will be the chaperones. The battle is REAL! We all have to grow in parenting, there are NO experts out there! But God will help you, if you’ll listen to the Holy Spirit, follow and pursue peace in each decision. And when you feel friction with your spouse be sure to lean in and make some decisions peacefully together.
I had a significant dream back in 2014. It was SO SPECIFIC I wrote it down! I call it the “Unity Dream.” I was in a building where there were musical instruments all around and people were playing them. They were scattered throughout the building with their instruments, not like a symphony that would otherwise be grouped together. Each musician had to watch a “monitor” to know when it was their time to play. When direction from their monitor came, they would play their part. If everyone was prepared, watching and playing their instruments on time, the musical notes made “ONE SOUND” and was BEAUTIFUL like a symphony! But if they weren’t paying attention to their “monitor,” they missed their timing. It would sound choppy, like clashing symbols, and VERY dis-unified! In family life we need to listen and keep watch with our “Monitor” the Holy Spirit. As we do, situations become more like a dance, or a symphony that plays in UNITY!
Our homes can TRULY be a place of unity. We just have to get out of the way, stop being selfish and controlling. Having kids will highlight all of our selfish and controlling ways. Take a moment right now and ask the Holy Spirit to show you areas you need to let GO and let GOD take control. Let the Holy Spirit (Monitor) guide you instead of your emotions or your past experiences. Ask for forgiveness where you have controlled and not allowed the Spirit of UNITY to hold first place in your heart and home. NOW, get ready for THE BLESSING to overtake you now…”for THERE the Lord commanded the blessing - life forever!” (Psalm 133:3b)